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Golfing Again

Good morning!

I got back on the golf course last night!  It was fantastic.  Like many other mothers, my days of golfing were diminshed with the arrival of children.  Who has time to spend four (+) hours on a golf course with babies and toddlers at home??  Not I, if you do...congratulations!

Anyway, for the last 10 years I've golfed 18 holes about once a season.  My daughters are 10 and eight now, so this is the year it changes.  My friend Sheri has put together a golf group...girls, mostly mom's, who are ready to reclaim their time on the tee box!  (and in the sand and in the water and in the rough...) 

We will play once a week at various courses around the Okanagan.  I can tell you it was quite a switch for my husband and I last night.  He taking the kids home to make dinner while I headed to the golf course.  FUN!

I hit some great shots and some not so great shots...but finally I feel like this will be the year for actual improvement.  Perhaps even better then that, it's a time to get together with other women, some I know well, other's I've just met.  We laughed (I cried a little when my ball went in the water) and we shared food and drinks after.  We talked about kids, husbands, c-sections (yikes!) and books.  There is already talk of forming a book club in the off season.  I really appreciate time spent with friends. 

It's easy to decline invitations and not pick up the phone or return calls because we are so busy with our kids, or jobs or errands...but I've made the choice not to use my daily 'busy-ness' as an excuse anymore.  We need to nurture these friendships.  It's healthy to socialize and see yourself outside that role of mother and caretaker...even just for a few hours a week.   My mother (who's very wise) tells me that as we get older, girlfriends become even more important.   I can also report that I'm a more patient, enthusiastic mother after I've had an outing!

Maybe a golf course isn't the place where you would consider connecting with friends each week...maybe it's a coffee shop, the gym, the mall or your kitchen table.  Whatever it is, I encourage you to just make the effort to keep in touch with your girls!

I forgot to take a picture of our golf group last night...but I have this one...



It's a little gopher on the third hole.  One of the girls was eating almonds and decided to share with him.  He loved it!!!  I think it's the perfect picture for today.  This blog is supposed to be about food...and now it is, with the story of the gopher and the almond!

Enjoy your day.

Toby

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